Divorce is as heartbreaking as it messy. No one plans for it but unfortunately many couples go through in their lifetimes. It can take an emotional toll on the victims including the divorcees, their offspring, their parents and the community at large. While we do not wish divorce on any of our readers or anyone for that matter, we can offer a few divorce tips for parents to ease the process for themselves and their kids. Follow through these words of advice keenly:
1. Keep the Children Away from your Fights
Resist the temptation to argue and fight in front of your already emotional and fragile children. What they are going through is enough; do not add salt to injury. When you bicker and throw words at each other, the kids wonder what to make of the situation. This may cause them to choose sides based on what they see and hear.
2. Be There for the Children
Children hate the thought of divorce more than you know. They cannot imagine having an incomplete family. When it finally happens, they find it hard to deal with the sad, angry, depressing and anxious feelings that go on inside of them. What you can do as a parent is to put their needs above yours and let them know you will never leave them no matter what.
3. Do Not Speak Negatively About your Ex
Remember your spouse is your children’s parent just as you are. Whenever the urge to paint a bad picture about their mom or dad comes, remind yourself that their needs come before yours. Let them have the opportunity to love their parents for who they are; not what they hear about them.
4. Do Not Lean Your Children for Emotional Support
As a grown-up, you can manage your feelings better than your children would. Most adults seek emotional release from their kids rather than from other support groups. These young ones like the legal proceedings less than you do, let them have less to worry about. Call a trusted family members or friends and lean on them for emotional support.
5. Encourage your Children to Visit Your Ex
The resentment towards your spouse may cause you to stop your kids from visiting him or her. Shun this thought away from your mind as much as you can. Let your kids know that they can visit their dad or mom any time they want.
We understand it is not easy to do these things but we promise you the rewards are great. Your kids will have an easier time accepting what is before them You as parents will also forgive each other quicker than if you did the opposite.